Apno ke darmiyan khamosh khauf: Jab ghar mehfooz na rahe
Breaking the Silence: Understanding and Overcoming Harassment within the Family
Ghar ke andar hone wali harassment par 'Log Kya Kahenge' ke dar se chup rehna mujrim ko taqat deta hai. Parhiye ek fictional kahani aur expert mashwaray jo aapki zindagi badal sakte hain.
Hum aksar wo baatein daba dete hain jo humein andar se torti hain—ye ‘The Week’ ka wo kona hai jahan aap ki khamoshi ko zubaan milegi.
Today’s Problem (Aap ka swaal)
Main ek parhay likhay, izzat-dar khandan se talluq rakhti hoon. Sab kehte hain hamara khandan ‘misali’ hai. Lekin pichlay 2 saal se main ek aisi jang lar rahi hoon jo meri rooh ko andar se kha rahi hai. Mere ek bohat qareebi rishtedar, jinhein sab bohat ‘buzurg’ aur ‘nek’ samajhte hain, jab bhi mere sath akele hote hain, unka rawaiya badal jata hai.
Wo ajeeb nazron se dekhte hain, ghalat baatein karte hain, aur kabhi ‘itfaqiya’ chhonay (touch karne) ki koshish karte hain. Main jab bhi bolne lagti hoon, mera gala khushk ho jata hai. Dimagh mein sirf ek hi sawal aata hai: ‘Log kya kahenge?’ Kya meri baat koi manay ga? Kya ghar ki izzat matti mein mil jayegi? Kya ulta mujh par hi ilzam lag jayega? Main har waqt dar aur sharmindagi mein rehti hoon. Kya mere jese halat se guzre wale aur bhi log hain? Main is khamoshi ko kese torun?
Help & Solutions (Psychological Standards)
a) Apni Nafsiyati Halat ko Samjhein (Validating Reality)
Sab se pehli baat: Ye aapka qasoor nahi hai. Harass karne wala hamesha us shakhs ko chunta hai jo “Log kya kahenge” ke dar se chup rahe.
- Reality Check: Jo aap mehsoos kar rahi hain wo ‘waham’ nahi hai. Agar aapko koi touch ya baat uncomfortable lag rahi hai, to wo ghalat hi hai.
- Journaling: Apne sath hone wale waqiyat ko likhna shuru karein. Ye aapko zehni tor par mazboot banayega aur aapko yaqeen dilayega ke aap sach bol rahi hain.
b) Boundary Set Karein (Taking the Power Back)
Harass karne wala aapki khamoshi se taqat hasil karta hai.
- Body Language: Us shakhs ke samne darna chor dein. Jab wo aisi harkat kare, to sakht lehjay mein “Nahi” kahein ya foran wahan se uth kar sab ke darmiyan chali jayen.
- Trusted Person: Khandan mein kisi ek aise insan ko dhoondein jo jazbati hone ke bajaye aqal se sune (chahe wo behan ho, dost ho ya maa). Unhein batayein ke “Mujhe falaan shakhs ke sath akely mein darr lagta hai.” Pura waqiya batana lazmi nahi, pehle sirf apna darr share karein.
c) Professional aur Legal Madad (External Support)
Agar ghar mein koi sunne wala nahi, to bahar rasta dhoondein.
- Therapy: Ek psychologist se baat karein. Ye “Social Taboo” ho sakta hai, lekin ye aapki zehni sehat ke liye zaroori hai.
Editor’s Closing Note
“Logon ka kaam hai kehna, lekin aapki zindagi aur sukoon ‘logon’ se zyada qeemti hai. Khamoshi mujrim ka sab se bara hamsafar hoti hai. Isey torein.”
The Week: Khamosh Kahaniyan, Be-khauf Hal
Hum ne is naye silsilay ka aghaz is liye kiya hai kyunke hamare muashray mein ‘Log kya kahenge’ ki deewar aksar insaf aur zehni sukoon ke raaste mein khari ho jati hai. Taboo topics, harassment, aur gharelu masail par baat karna gunah nahi, balkay zehni sehat ke liye lazmi hai. Is section ka maqsad aapko ye ehsaas dilana hai ke aap tanha nahi hain; jo kuch aap bardaasht kar rahe hain, wo hazaron aur log bhi face kar rahe hain. Hum aapko dawat dete hain ke aap apne sawal, apni kahaniyan, aur apni uljhanein humse share karein. Aapki pehchan (identity) mukammal tor par makhfi (secret) rakhi jayegi. Hamara maqsad sirf aapki baat sunna nahi, balkay mahir-e-nafsiyat (psychologists) aur experts ki madad se aapko behtareen mashwaray farahum karna hai. Aaiye, mil kar is khamoshi ko torein jo humein kamzor banati hai.
“Kya aap bhi kisi aisi situation ka shikar hain? Yaad rakhein, aap akeli nahi hain.”
Agar aap apni kahani share karna chahte hain, ya kisi maslay par expert ki raye lena chahte hain, to humein aaj hi email karein. Aapka naam aur pehchan mukammal tor par khufia (secret) rakhi jayegi. Hum yahan sirf sun’ne ke liye nahi, balkay aapki madad ke liye hain.
Email us at: mail@TheWeek.com (Subject: Life Section – Khamosh Kahaniyan)
